DO YOU KNOW THAT MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERONE?

 Do you know that marriage is not for everyone?

Different cultures and traditions made us believe that marriage is for everyone. But sincerely, looking into the word of God, God who is the originator of marriage never made marriage a compulsory venture. He said if a man cannot live alone then he should find a wife. Today we have various misinterpretation of marriage. Some have decided not to get married but refuse to remain single, therefore committing adultery and making it the norm.

Another category of people who chose to be married but living single. It might interest you to read the book titled "Married For 24 Years But Living Single" you can get a copy on Amazon in kindle or paperback. It's a book I must recommend, and as you may know that marriage have different strokes for different folks. Hence I will strongly recommend that you should be amongst the first people to grab the book  on marriage that will unveil how to truly enjoy a successful marriage, it will be available again on Amazon in two weeks, titled "Marriage is to Be Enjoyed Not Enjoyed" The Hidden Secret to A Successful Marriage Unveiled.

 If you are single, married, separated, or divorced kindly get these books to equip yourself with these life lessons with practical tools shared to help you in your marriage journey. 

Most people study to obtain a qualification to be gainfully employed, attend courses, master minds to become successful in their business.

 What investment have you made on yourself to ensure that you were prepared for marriage? This is a question I would like you to respond to in all honesty. 

If asked the question is marriage sweet? 

Here will be my response. Yes, marriage is indeed sweet, infact, it's sweeter than HONEY.

Why are there many divorce, separation, unhappy relationships etc. These you will not only get a response to but you will be able to run with invaluable wisdom and knowledge to avoid the mistakes others made, or are making resulting to all the unpleasant experiences.

See the book that you must desire if you truly would like a taste of enjoyable marriage. As it's comprise of 

What to look out for before giving a marriage proposal.

Tips before accepting a marriage proposal and more. It's a win win for you to be honest.

Stop using your bitter experience in marriage to advise young adults looking forward to getting married. Read this book to have a better understanding of marriage as lot of work has been put into it to ensure you walk away with the right resources to a successful marriage whether you are white or black I can assure you it will be worthwhile.

This is a book with practical steps to help you enjoy marriage, as that was God's intention.

See the versions in which it's available on Amazon.

I hope you Enjoy!

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Marriage is one of the most interesting and enjoyable institution God created but if you are in it with someone who is either ignorant of what marriage truly is,  and end up with someone who cares less about marriage, or lacks confidence, unfaithful, has no fear of God, no true love, no trust etc. and get into marriage with his or her own selfish interest then you are into something totally different and not marriage.


There are many examples of such relationships today, and when it's not marriage it's not marriage. If anyone wants to be married please be prepared to make it an enjoyable one, as that is God's intention for marriage. Any tradition or beliefs that are going contrary to God's plan for marriage must be abolished.

See the photo of the beautiful couple's above  I saw posted on Facebook, the handsome man killed his beautiful wife and then took his own life, this horrible incident took place on Sunday, the 21st of June, 2020.

I must say, as a woman, please,  please and please do not put yourself in such a situation, because from being married for a while before I separated from my husband I must tell you from experience they are always a warning sign. Of course, we women always want to do our best to keep the marriage, especially for us Christians. But you must also realise that marriage can never be successful without both parties willing and being prepared to make it happen.

I was in a marriage where my husband believe marriage must be bitter, full of disrespect, no love, always quarrelling and full of trouble. In marriage when challenging situations arise we should be able to come together as mature people to talk about it and work things out.  But when it gets to a point whereby your spouse no longer recognises a problem or no longer sees your happiness as important but rather continues to do more of the things you hate and show you hatred continuously then you know that something is obviously not right and for me fixing it was my first step after recognising that there was something wrong, but if his understanding of marriage has gotten to a place where he is living in denial and seem not to do anything about the situation and then expect me to suffer and be in bondage and pretend to be happy, and on top of that join my half-sisters to tarnish my image, then I knew at that stage we needed to go our ways.

When a woman is tolerating abuse in marriage the three things I see that can happen is either you leave a fake life and pretend that all is well, or fall sick and die in misery you called marriage,  or you are faced with what the beautiful woman above went through,  she met sudden death in her own home by someone she called her husband, unbelievable.  Mind you, it does happen to men also, but unfortunately, women are more vulnerable. This was how one of our beautiful TV stars here in London was killed by her husband, in her case, her husband also killed their children and ran to his home town in Ghana.

The beautiful couple's above could have got things better resolved instead of the man committing a sin against God and humanity. Femi, as he was called you could have done better.

Women, do not be deceived by the lies your husband may be telling you, do not complain to anyone. The initial stage is for both of you to resolve issues but if you are not seeing any changes please sick help.

Ensure you speak to your Pastor if you are a Christian, seek counselling if necessary.
In any case, both of you must make every effort to work on yourselves. Invest in your marriage, attend marriage seminars together, and if things are still not getting there, get a marriage coach for yourselves. These must be for both couples to attend because, from experience, it doesn't matter how much knowledge you have on marriage if your partner is ignorant or not interested, things might not fall into place. What you end up doing is to cope with anything thrown at you.

If after every support you have received you still can't see changes for the better, then you can either reevaluate the process together if there is communication and see where you can make some adjustments.

Dying in frustration is not a Visa to heaven let's not be deceived. I hate divorce because God hates it but my relationship with my husband got to a stage where I was begging him for divorce.  He wouldn't accept divorce but when I became tired of being unhappy I have now decided to make our separation public.


To see other of my projects and services and my book on marriage which I will go back to after my book on How I Conquered  Severe symptoms of covid-19 in 48hours visit www.triumphinthemidstofadversity.com

Do you know that most of the challenges in
African Marriage today originated from women and see how.

An African mother pays more attention to her daughter's to be able to cook, clean the house, study hard so she doesn't become a liability to her husband, or learn a trade and teaches her daughter how to respect her husband, wash his clothes but fail to teach the son most of these and most importantly the command God gave to the man who chose to get married.  Which says husband love your wife. The father on the other hand pays more attention to the male child to study hard to get good grades, and get a good job or teach him some business ideas so he can look after his family, and also that his wife will not disrespect him in the future.
But in reality how many men are providing for their wives today. As Most women are gainfully employed and entrepreneurs in different fields. While the few unemployed or full-time housewives lose their respect and have no say in their matrimonial home. This is not the situation for everyone but it's becoming so common.
Having spoken to most women and being an African woman who is being married to an African man, it seems obvious that most African men have replaced the word love for financial support for their family.
Are you wondering why African marriages now face a high divorce rate in the western world more than ever. This is probably the reason behind it, because most women in this part of the world are either providing for themselves or getting some sort of support from the government. So therefore the only role most African men were relying on to show love to their wife is not vacant and there fail in marriage. Instead of looking back to see where they have failed their wive they turned around blaming their wives for all sorts. Sometimes some women might be guilty but overall the African man was not taught how to express love to their wife. Weldone to those men who have learnt how to express love from the western world, but very few percentage as the majority are deep into the African culture. The way forward is that every woman should endeavour to put as much time and effort we put on our girls preparing them for their future husband also on our male children so that both husbands and wives will be happy and enjoy their marriage because marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured. Thanks and stay blessed .

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