There are many examples of such relationships today, and when it's not marriage it's not marriage. If anyone wants to be married please be prepared to make it an enjoyable one, as that is God's intention for marriage. Any tradition or beliefs that are going contrary to God's plan for marriage must be abolished.
See the photo of the beautiful couple's above I saw posted on Facebook, the handsome man killed his beautiful wife and then took his own life, this horrible incident took place on Sunday, the 21st of June, 2020.
I must say, as a woman, please, please and please do not put yourself in such a situation, because from being married for a while before I separated from my husband I must tell you from experience they are always a warning sign. Of course, we women always want to do our best to keep the marriage, especially for us Christians. But you must also realise that marriage can never be successful without both parties willing and being prepared to make it happen.
I was in a marriage where my husband believe marriage must be bitter, full of disrespect, no love, always quarrelling and full of trouble. In marriage when challenging situations arise we should be able to come together as mature people to talk about it and work things out. But when it gets to a point whereby your spouse no longer recognises a problem or no longer sees your happiness as important but rather continues to do more of the things you hate and show you hatred continuously then you know that something is obviously not right and for me fixing it was my first step after recognising that there was something wrong, but if his understanding of marriage has gotten to a place where he is living in denial and seem not to do anything about the situation and then expect me to suffer and be in bondage and pretend to be happy, and on top of that join my half-sisters to tarnish my image, then I knew at that stage we needed to go our ways.
When a woman is tolerating abuse in marriage the three things I see that can happen is either you leave a fake life and pretend that all is well, or fall sick and die in misery you called marriage, or you are faced with what the beautiful woman above went through, she met sudden death in her own home by someone she called her husband, unbelievable. Mind you, it does happen to men also, but unfortunately, women are more vulnerable. This was how one of our beautiful TV stars here in London was killed by her husband, in her case, her husband also killed their children and ran to his home town in Ghana.
The beautiful couple's above could have got things better resolved instead of the man committing a sin against God and humanity. Femi, as he was called you could have done better.
Women, do not be deceived by the lies your husband may be telling you, do not complain to anyone. The initial stage is for both of you to resolve issues but if you are not seeing any changes please sick help.
Ensure you speak to your Pastor if you are a Christian, seek counselling if necessary.
In any case, both of you must make every effort to work on yourselves. Invest in your marriage, attend marriage seminars together, and if things are still not getting there, get a marriage coach for yourselves. These must be for both couples to attend because, from experience, it doesn't matter how much knowledge you have on marriage if your partner is ignorant or not interested, things might not fall into place. What you end up doing is to cope with anything thrown at you.
If after every support you have received you still can't see changes for the better, then you can either reevaluate the process together if there is communication and see where you can make some adjustments.
Dying in frustration is not a Visa to heaven let's not be deceived. I hate divorce because God hates it but my relationship with my husband got to a stage where I was begging him for divorce. He wouldn't accept divorce but when I became tired of being unhappy I have now decided to make our separation public.
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